There has been some positive habit building in the last month that I think is worth sharing — if only to remind myself that my efforts are not totally without fruit. (Also, the pictures are random ones from the last few weeks.)
For the sake of maybe nothing more than my pride, I should mention that while I certainly lacked consistency in the past, I was not completely neglectful of my household and did manage to keep us from squalor and even occasionally in sweet smelling sheets. Some days and weeks might have been better than others but as you read this list, know that it’s not that I never did any of the things on this list, I just never seemed to be able to accomplish them on a near daily basis.
1. I’m making my bed everyday. I like a clean bedroom like my husband likes a clean kitchen, but it’s always been tricky because we share a room with the baby and I tend to get things done when she is asleep. Can’t very well take care of a bedroom with a sleeping baby in it, now can ya?! Now I make the bed before I put her down for her first nap. Rarely will you find my bed unmade these days.
2. My bedroom is clean. Cleanliness begets cleanliness and all of that. It’s only natural to keep going after making the bed so unless Evie is a pathetic tired mess who cannot stand to be kept awake for another minute, I clean up the place and get dressed. Our bedroom doesn’t have a lot of stuff in it and though my darling (big) roommate seems to think it is his mission in life to make a mess of the place, it’s never really much of a big deal.
3. I get dressed in the first part of the day. No, I have not always gotten dressed before noon. *hang head in embarrassment* Babies sleeping in bedrooms with clothes and all of that excuse-ed-ness, doncha know?
4. Children are responsible for their own thing-gettings. In other words, I have been working mightily to combat the “mom default” setting in our household. I am reining in the amount of unnecessary energy I expend running around at my children’s beck and call. I want to reserve my body for doing the things that only I can do, not the things they can do for themselves. (Half the time they don’t even care enough to expend their own energy!) Part of my goal is to teach my kids to be responsible and part of it is simply to stop moving every minute of the day. I am reducing the number of times I go up and down stairs and the number of times I go to the kids instead of having them come to me. We’ve established a lot of unhealthy patterns in this regard (my fault!) and I’m happy to see some change taking place here.
5. The kitchen is clean. I admit, I’ve fallen off of the wagon a few times with this one, especially on the weekends. More often than not, however, there is at least one point in each day when all of the dishes are done and the counters and stove are wiped down. I get thrown for a loop when I forget to run the dishwasher at the end of the day, but otherwise the kitchen maintenance is going swimmingly. Much, much better.
6. The kitchen has hours of operation. We’re still working on this, but overall I am doing much much better with managing meals and snacking. It was really out of control. It’s still a little bit out of control because the kids really push back on the kitchen boundaries but it is significantly better.
7. The laundry is current. I’ve been doing loads every other day, if not every day, and putting everything away. Friends, there are days when I don’t have enough stuff to do a load and have to wait! I even took care of Evie’s baptism gown that has been hanging in the laundry room for over a year. The wonders never cease.
Alright, well, as overwhelmed as you are with all of this amazing work I’ve been doing — that I should have been doing all along — that’s all I have to share for today. There are all sorts of other areas I am still troubleshooting and you will probably hear about them eventually. (It’s not paradise over here, believe you me!) All in all, though, the journey is going well and I couldn’t be happier about that.
p.s. My eye appointment confirmed that my eyes are healthy, just dry. OTC drops it is.
p.s.s. ZouZou had a dentist appointment this morning. No cavities! She cracks me up, that girl. We went to “the dollar bin store” (Target) afterwards and she picked out one thing. She’s quite remarkable. Unlike other members of the family *cough*Roo*cough* she can wander through a store and not whine for a single thing.